Words like “Real women have curves” and lyrics like, “Yeah, it’s pretty clear, I ain’t no size two/ But I can shake it, shake it/ Like I’m supposed to…You know I won’t be no stick figure silicone Barbie doll” irk me.
While I’m rather curvy now, I wasn’t curvy growing up. I struggled not in the way most women do – to lose weight, but to gain weight. It didn’t matter how much I ate, my metabolism was insanely fast – until, finally, it wasn’t. But for some women, the fast metabolism remains, and for those women gaining weight is as much a struggle as losing is for many. I’m all for female empowerment, but I’m against body shaming. Body shaming is a contradiction of what female empowerment is all about.
If you’re on the thicker side, please embrace your body and who you are, but do not put the “skinny bitches” down, because not every skinny women is skinny by choice, just as I’m sure not every heavy woman is heavy by choice. Same applies for thinner women! Let’s stop bringing each other down!
Furthermore, I’m annoyed when men say things like, “Women should respect themselves.” I’m annoyed mostly because these comments stem from a place of machismo. It’s okay for a man to date more than one woman at once, for example, but when a woman goes and does the same, perhaps to try to get to know herself a little better, then she’s automatically labeled as lacking self-respect.
Here’s the thing, or at least the way I see it: the only definition of who you are and who you should be is the definition you, as a woman, are willing to accept. It’s 2014 (almost 2015)! Let’s disregard these limited ideals of what a woman should be, because truth be told, the only thing every woman should be is herself.
What are some limited comments you’re tired of hearing?